How the Four Horsemen Show Up Differently in Men and Women

Most couples don't fall apart over the big things. It's the slow, quiet erosion of emotional safety that does the damage, and it often shows up through four familiar patterns: criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling. In this post, I break down how these patterns tend to look different in men and women, including a form of shutting down that often gets missed entirely: fawning.