The Pursue Withdraw Cycle in Relationships
One partner pulls away to feel calm again. The other reaches out to feel safe again. Both are doing exactly what their nervous system knows how to do, and together they create the very disconnection they're both afraid of. Here's why this cycle happens and how to actually break it.
When Safety Means Staying Alert
When your nervous system has learned that love can disappear without warning, being “on alert” starts to feel like the only way to stay safe. Attachment-based hypervigilance is an exhausting pattern rooted in early emotional survival—one that tells you to anticipate rejection, fix every rupture, and never let your guard down. This post explores how that pattern forms, how it shows up in adulthood, and how therapy can help you feel safe without staying on edge.
Embracing Unconditional Positive Regard: The Heart of Therapeutic Rapport
On the Pathways to Wellness blog, Francesca Wehr, LCSW, discusses the transformative power of unconditional positive regard in therapy. Discover how this judgment-free approach builds trust, encourages self-acceptance, and strengthens the therapeutic relationship.
